How Defined Is Your Relationship??.

Chinwe and Sam were course mates and fellowship members in the University. As a result, they were very close, always doing things together daily. Chinwe misconstrued this as being in a relationship. Sam, on his own, was enjoying the friendship and was prepared to do anything for chinwe, who did not hesitate to expose her past and future to Sam. But she never observed that sam never told her about his own life.All brothers that desired to marry chinwe thought she was already engaged to Sam. After schooling, they were both posted to the North for service. As a result, they both exchanged regular visits. After service, they returned to Lagos and got good employment. Six months later, Sam sent his wedding invitation card to chinwe, who was so affected that it landed her in the hospital. When sam was queried, he said he never thought of marrying her as he was already engaged before meeting her. He concluded that he only saw her like his younger sister and nothing more. When chinwe was confronted with the fact that sam never proposed marriage to her, she was dazed. It was then she realized her folly......

This is very common among youths. They assume about relationship most of the time, there by setting up themselves for great disappointment.The danger is, everybody will assume you are engaged while you are hoping the guy is taking his time and will propose soonest...Now you must define your relationship by noting the following:
1. As a lady, define all your relationships. If a guy is becoming too close without disclosing his intention, ask him what he wants from you...
2. Don't be too close to any guy to the point that people will start to insinuate....
3. Never allow a a guy propose with proverbs or idioms to you. Pretend as if you don't know what he is saying until he comes straight. For example, if he says, "Let me be the umbrella on your head", tell him, "I am not in the sun and i do not need an umbrella"...
4. Avoid cooking for guys unnecessarily. Most guys love food and will do anything to keep the source of their good food, even if it means pretending they are in love...
5. Do not help a guy by proposing for him. ANY GUY THAT IS NOT BOLD ENOUGH TO PROPOSE TO YOU IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE YOUR HUSBAND...
Guys, please be bold to propose simply, concisely and directly without proverbs or idioms, and get a direct "YES" or "NO" from a lady; do not assume.....